Aries are naturally independent. Anything that is a threat to their independence, will not last. This applies especially to a relationship. Current society sees the relationship as a win-lose deal. And an Aries does not want to lose. At heart Aries is a warrior. For an Aries to lose means death or slavery. So relationships with an Aries can easily turn into a battle. And if the partner stands up for themselves, it can get dirty. The real opportunity is for both partners to be totally honest. Then the relationship becomes an adventure.
Here is how you can do it.
- You need to see what is going on in the world.
You need to realize that most people still live a win-lose life. This is especially true on an emotional level. You can have great theories about win-win. But when the rubber hits the road, most people still emotionally react from win-lose.
- You have to break free of this emotionally.
This is where Aries can show you the way. Aries in a conflict will be a warrior. Aries in the land of opportunity will be an adventurer. To emotionally break free of win-lose, you need to become an adventurer. This means you start to see your life as the land of opportunity.
- For this to be real, take the initiative and step up as your authentic self.
The general public and people you know will probably not agree. If you fight them like a warrior, they will probably fight back. If you treat it as an adventure, they will shake their heads or wish you luck. When you return with the treasures you find, they may even be impressed. To an Aries this is very attractive. They sense that this relationship will enhance their independence. Now you have their interest.
- Now commit to creating a win-win relationship.
This is where the adventure becomes reality. Do what you need to do to make this commitment real. Like pioneers you need to reach and pass the point of no return. This is the point where you both know that if either of you losers, you both lose.
- You have to be clear about what you truly want.
Aries knows what they want. They will tell you up front. The real adventure for Aries is to discover if this is what they truly want. In their heart they may want something else. This is where your partner can help you. The help your partner provides will vary, depending on their Zodiac sign.
- Your partner has to get clear on what they truly want.
Your Aries won’t be happy until you honestly get this. Now if you see this as a battle this part can be brutal. You can both get hurt. When you approach it like an adventure, it is exciting, challenging and rewarding. The reward is when you both break through into uncharted territory.
- The final step: Do what you truly want to do, together.
Christopher Power is an international Astrologer.