Saying I Love You With the Five Love Languages

It’s difficult to know when and how you should tell your partner you love them. How can you tell them in the way they can hear it the clearest? It’s not always about words. Here are some tips on saying “I love you” the right way.

The Five Love Languages

In Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages, he talks about the five different ways that someone might prefer to be loved. What that means is, there are certain things you can do that will leave a strong impact on your spouse or partner, more than other things. So even though you’ve just spent the entire with your husband, for example, saying you love to him at the end of your day might have more impact than the time you spent together.

Finding Out Your Love Language

Dr. Chapman has a quiz on his site that allows you to figure out your personal love language, which could be one of these five: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.  While you might enjoy all of these things at one time or another (as most of us do), there is usually one that you’re drawn to more than the rest. Talk to your partner about their love language, and implement some of these ideas to let them know they are loved and appreciated.

A Good Way to Show Love

A good way to show love is to go back to the beginning of your relationship. Recreate your first date, and let your partner know what you were thinking back then, such as how nervous you were, how handsome you thought he looked, or how beautiful you realized she was. Talk about those key moments early in your relationship where you tried extra hard to impress your partner, and then do some of those things again.

How to Say You Love Someone in a New Relationship

Falling in love is thrilling, and one of the best things that can happen to you in your life. Those first few months or years together often set the pace for the rest of your relationship. Saying I love you doesn’t appear as difficult in the beginning. In the beginning of your relationship,  try out different ways to say I love you to see which ones seem to leave the biggest impact.

Tell your partner you love them, write it out in a note, do nice things for them, hold their hand, hug them, make them a priority on your schedule, and the like.  As your relationship progresses, you’ll figure out which methods of communication and love language your partner prefers.

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