Guest post by Olivia Nicholas

Every bride is looking for a unique way to set her wedding apart from the rest and ensure that it is a day that she will never forget. While there are many ways to do this, sometimes it is the small, sentimental gestures that will make the wedding second to none.  If you are looking for a way to make your wedding unique, consider writing your own wedding vows.  If this thought scares you a bit, don’t fret! Read on to find great ideas on how you can get your creative wheels spinning and compose your very own wedding vows. Be sure to share these techniques with your spouse to be so that he, too, can compose the perfect wedding vows for your big day.

The “low down” on wedding vows

The beginning stages of writing your own wedding vows will be the hardest. Many people simply just don’t know where to begin.  One of the most important things that you should keep in mind is that wedding vows must always be truthful. They must come from your heart. It sometimes takes going to the depths of your soul to figure out exactly what to say. Don’t try to paint a nice picture of someone your spouse is not just to impress your guests.  Similarly, you don’t want to paint a picture of a relationship that is not real either. Keep them simple, keep them sweet, and keep them honest.  Keeping these rules in mind will help set you up for a great beginning not only in writing your wedding vows, but also in your marriage.

What’s next? 

Okay, now you know that the wedding vows need to be truthful and portray an accurate picture of the love the two of you share. What’s the next step?  Brainstorming!  Brainstorm your true feelings about the person you are going to marry.  Why do you love them? Why do you want to

spend the rest of your life with them? Are there characteristics about this person that absolutely melt your heart?  These are just a few of the many questions that you can ask yourself when brainstorming about how you truly feel towards the one you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. Grab a piece of paper and begin brainstorming about the love you share for your future spouse.

And then?

Now that you have brainstormed and have thought of every possible reason why you love him, begin to think of special times that the two of you have shared together. Perhaps it was a first date or a first kiss. Perhaps it was a funny ah-ha moment that told you that this would be the person you would spend the rest of your life with.  Don’t be afraid to incorporate these special times into your vows.  Adding a little humor is definitely okay if it was indeed an intricate part of the beginning of your relationship.  Too many people have the misconception that wedding vows should be completely sentimental.  While it is important that they are sentimental, adding in humor may be the perfect fit for some couples.

Finally…..

Once you have told him exactly why you love him and traveled down memory lane to the first time you realized he was the one, it’s time to get serious and tell him exactly what you hope the future will bring for the two of you.  Let him know that you want to spend every waking moment trying to make him happy and that the day represents death do us part.  Finish up the vows with hopes and dreams of a love that will last a lifetime.

While writing wedding vows may seem like a difficult process, knowing where to start can help you create the perfect vows for your big day.  Writing the vows may take deep thought as this is the one time you will publically proclaim how and why you love the man standing in front of you.  Be willing to put time and energy into creating something truly unique for your spouse-to-be. The vows represent what is the beginning of the rest of your life together.  What will you say in your wedding vows?

Olivia Nicholas has been writing about weddings for over 10 years.  She believes that weddings are truly a beautiful event joining two people and families together.  She writes about all things weddings for Storkie.

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• Wedding Planning For Dummies, Second Edition

 
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