Guys First Date Behavior Decoded
Picking up the check, letting you choose the location, and making eye contact can tell you a lot about your date’s personality.
Looking for a nice guy? Sometimes the best way to figure out if a guy is worth his salt is by watching what he does when you go out. Here are some common things nice guys do on a first date.
He Immediately Pays for the Check
A guy that is generous with his money is usually giving with other aspects of his personality, such as his affection and his time. If he grabs the check and fluffs off any of your offers to pay, he’s trying to show you that he would put you first. On the other hand, if a guy insists that you split the check or even pay the tip, he is already trying to control what you do.
To that end, pay attention to how he reacts if you offer to pick up the tab. If he thinks about it for several seconds or seems annoyed when he tells you he will get the bill, this is a sign that he is just going through the motions of courtesy.
He Lets You Pick the Place
When it comes to a first date, a woman should always be able to make the choice on where to go. Women deal with dating safety concerns far more than men do and should be able to choose a place that is comfortable for them. A guy that insists on where to meet disregards his date’s point-of-view.
He Lets You Be a Part of the Conversation
Both parties are usually nervous on a first date, so it’s understandable that some guys may talk a lot to cover up their jitters. However, no matter what the conversation, a guy should pause and let you give your two cents worth. A man that drones on and on without regard for what you have to say, or seems uninterested when you speak shows that he’ll always think of his own needs first.
His Eyes Stay on You
A guy that does not make eye contact while you talk is not only rude, but also arrogant. After all, common first date etiquette suggests that even when you find your date boring, you should still smile and be polite. If a guy seems bored while you struggle to keep the conversation going, imagine how difficult it would be to keep him entertained while the two of you are in a relationship.
Likewise, if a guy looks around during your date, he may be looking for an exit or even checking out other women. This indicates a man who can’t be content, no matter what the situation.
He Asks If You Need Anything
A guy that wants to please his gal will not assume anything about the evening. Even if she has a full cup of coffee and has just eaten, he will ask if she needs anything else. This type of eagerness lets a woman know that he is determined to provide for her happiness.
He’s Okay With a Change in Plan
Life isn’t perfect, and that includes dating. So when things don’t work out as the two of you had planned, watch how your man reacts. If he’s upset and angry, he may be someone that can’t roll with the ups and downs of life. On the other hand, if he shrugs it off and suggests a new activity, he is someone that knows life is what you make it.
Perhaps the most important way to spot a nice guy is by paying attention to your feelings. If you seem put off by something he’s said, or are a bit frightened by being alone with him, get some distance. Before you get to know any guy, always put dating safety first when getting to know someone new. However, don’t let it deter you from meeting the guy of your dreams. Nice guys do exist, and they are looking for someone just like you.
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Er, I have been slated MANY times for letting women choose where to go. Girls, I’ve been told, like decisiveness in a man. Apart from that, good stuff…
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Jimmy, you’re absolutely right. I was thinking more about first dates or the first time you meet someone. Like when someone sets you up, or you have a coffee date. Then it’s a good idea to let the girl pick the place so she can choose somewhere she’s most comfortable with.
But for any other occasion, YES, the guy gets extra points if he chooses the place and the activities. Gals do like a guy with a plan.
BTW, I clicked over to your blog and LOVE it. You’ve got great stuff on there!
Don’t be a stranger.
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I enjoyed reading your dating article.. Guys are really mysterious, and reading this article made me understands how fun they are..wehehe..
keep on postin’..
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well there are loads of cases that dating does not work out so well is there, I guess everyone has to have own moves and hope they work out somehow.
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Its usually 6 of one half a dozen of the other. But I can understand the statement the woman needs to be given priority given there is a safety issue.
Bill
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It’s a confusing place out there isn’t it? How gauge whether your date is going to react badly if you offer to pay. It can be just as bad if you don’t offer to pay and come off looking cheap… LOL
The ability to read minds would be a great help, but obviously the best thing to do is to be yourself – if you think shared payment is the way to go and your partner doesn’t agree then you have a good indication of whether it’s going to work out. And vice versa…
Am I right?
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this post says it all… girls have the intuition to know whether a guy is going through the motions or is sincerely wanting her to have a great time. of course, you’d want to end up with the latter so observe.
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The article is good, but realize some guys are great the first few dates. The key is to see if that is their real personality or they are just trying to make a good impression.
As for the first date, a woman needs to have the date in a public place and yet be a place you can talk and get to know each other. Going to the movies is common, but that is a bad first date.
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Sounds like the making of a great series of dates. A guy who is flexible about plan changes is definitely worth having a second date with.
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Nice, the site flows smooth and runs fast too. And its almost funny how you look at the mans mind, i feel like a trained dog seeing my quirks on display. To many with no patience. Thats half the reason casual encounters and craigzlist do so well with new web daters.
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Great tips! I agree with Jimmy though: sometimes it’s nice if the guy picks a place, especially a place you end up really liking: it shows you have similar tastes.
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i love it when a guy suggests a place, but leaves it open for me to decide. he is taking initiative, but also being flexible and open to my input.
it drives me crazy when they don’t have any ideas or suggestions. i like people with ideas.
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