Date Ideas for Introverts
Not into crowds and socializing? You can still get to know your date with a fun activity you’ll both enjoy.
When you’re the shy type you’ve still got to make conversation in order to get to know your date. While many introverts meet online, resist the urge to hide behind email. Your comfort level may be with the written word, but in order to truly connect you’ve got to do it face to face.
Here are a few date ideas for the first few outings.
Coffee For the First Date
The coffee shop is best friend of the introvert. If you’re meeting your date for the first time, choose a coffee shop with lots of traffic, yet a quiet comfortable spot for the two of you to talk. The abundance of people coming in and out of the shop will allow you to blend in while you wait for your date. A quiet corner will give you the space to converse with ease.
Literary Event
Indulge your love of literature with an author appearance, poetry reading, or lecture. The key to finding the right date activity is to choose something you both enjoy. So if you happen to enjoy literature, feel free to partake in an activity that will please your mind and intelligence. However, remember to allow time for conversation afterward.
Movie
Contrary to traditional advice, movies can be great dates for introverts. The key is to choose a flick with enough material to converse about afterward. Make sure you plan something after the movie so you can get to know your date a bit. A drink at a local bar or even a cup of coffee works just fine after a movie.
Dinner at a Small, Quiet Location
When you’re the shy type, finding the right activity to match your comfort level can be challenging. But a quiet dinner at a favorite spot could be just the ticket. Choose a place you’ve been before and one where you are comfortable. Arrange to meet at the restaurant separately and agree to leave directly after your date. That way you won’t have to worry about going out of your comfort zone for any post-dinner activities.
Walk in the Park
Introverts love to exercise alone. So why not take your favorite physical activity and incorporate it into your date? If your love interest is as into exercise as you are, ask him or her to join you on a jog, bike ride, or run.
Make a plan to exercise for a much shorter distance than you’d normally go. After all, you’re there to get to know your date and enjoy an afternoon together, not qualify for a marathon. Choose a park bench or other nearby place to grab an ice cream or juice while you chat after your workout.
Dating doesn’t have to be difficult for the introvert. Keep your initial dates short to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and don’t be afraid to try something new. If your date is worth your time he or she will take things at the pace you need in order to get to know each other. Most of all, stay true to who you are and don’t try to change your personality.
In my experience even an introverts can be very talkative, they even like to play games or interact with a crowd, but it has to be the right kind of a person they talk to, or the right kind of activity they do. So the key is to find something they enjoy and once you find it the introverts can really enjoy it.
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First dates always give the jitters. Meeting up for drinks, like coffee or a real alcoholic drink, in a quiet location seem to work better for everybody–it gives just about the right amount of time to get to know somebody and to decide whether a meal after drinks is a good idea or not.
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First date jitters, eh? It doesnt seem so long ago that guys and girls had to get to gether wothout the help and advice of the internet. It’s difficult to beleive that people had to enter the dating arena without dating / matching sites.
I think it’s most definately better now with sites like this to assist in the quest for love. What do you think?
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As an introvert, sometimes it helps to have something to get the conversation going. I loaded Lounge Lizard onto my iPhone and it helps me break the ice with women I want to meet. Give it a try, it works for me.
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My issue is what advice can you give to a somewhat shy and introverted guy who cannot break out of the shell of being a “nice guy” since that is not what women generally want.
Being a “nice guy” is his identity, although willing to adjust to be a bit more spontaneous.
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