If you fall in love too easily, it could mean the boundaries you set for yourself could use a little tweaking.

It’s great to be an open person who readily accepts love and willingly enters new relationships. However, if you’re someone that falls head over heals for people as soon as you meet them, it could mean that you’re inadvertently pushing away your partner by coming on too strong. Mature relationships get stronger over time. So if you’re already imaging your wedding day when you’ve only just met someone, you could be sabotaging your relationship before it even has a chance to take flight.

See if some of the following indications of unbalanced love describe you:

• You are jealous of every person in your mate’s life. Friends, siblings, coworkers, and even family members become targets of your suspicion.

• You stop doing things when your mate is not around. Instead of keeping up your regular activities, you use your off time to obsess over your mate. You wonder when you’ll see them again and what they might be doing instead of just using the time to get a few things done yourself.

• When you can’t see your mate you are not just disappointed, you’re devastated.

• When you call and they aren’t home, you obsess over what they might be doing and with whom.

• Your plans are entirely centered on them. So much so that you will drop previous plans with anyone else in order to be with him or her.

• You avoid making plans altogether and instead wait for them to call. People that once asked you to do things have stopped because you’ve blown them off so many times before.

• You put a lot of thought, time, and money into gifts for them, but never seem to notice that they don’t reciprocate.

• You call or email several times a day when your mate has asked you not to.

• Eventually, even when you are with your mate, you think about what they might be doing when you are not around.

The problem with unbalanced love is that you spend so much time focusing on your mate that you end up fading away. When you are obsessed with one person, your personality is diminished and ironically you end up becoming a less interesting person. Instead, enjoy your single life and don’t get too wrapped up in falling in love until you become a whole person on your own first. Only then will you finally be able to recognize true love when it does come your way.

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