How to Approach and Meet People
Don’t just stand there when you spot someone who catches your eye! Ask them out. Here are some hassle-free suggestions on how to approach people.
At church:
You’ll be that much more compatible with your partner if you two share the same faith. The best way to meet people at church is through activities. Today many churches even have a singles ministry. Check out the church bulletin or contact the individual in charge of singles activities when you go to worship.
• Approach them: Make sure you’re aware of the current activities and programs going on, then ask them if they’d like to join you in going to one of the events. Start off the conversation with the topic from that week.
• Ask them out: “Would you like to go with me to the singles golf outing next Saturday?”
At the supermarket:
We’ve all got to eat, right? Even folks that don’t cook have to get items from time to time. Don’t just throw the things you need in a cart and bolt. Take time to shop at a leisurely pace and study the other shoppers. Is there someone pushing a cart with food in it that suggests the single life?
• Approach them: If you see someone interesting, start by commenting on items in their cart with a funny (but not insulting) line.
• Ask them out: “I see it looks like you’re having a box of cookies and some carrot sticks for dinner tonight. How about if I bring the wine and we can have a carpet picnic?”
At a flea market:
Flea markets attract folks that collect things. The good news is that you’re likely to bump into someone you wouldn’t have had an occasion to meet otherwise. Check out potential singles viewing things like lunchboxes, dishes, and old toys.
• Approach them: People that collect things generally like to talk about them. So ask someone about their particular object of interest.
• Ask them out: “Hi. That {plate, lunchbox, figure} you have in your hand is great. I’ve been thinking about collecting myself. You want to grab a beverage at the concession stand and tell me more about it?”
At sporting events:
Find someone that shares your interest in professional sports. Choose event nights that are geared toward singles. Avoid “family night” games, as not as many singles will be in attendance. Take a look around. Is there a group of guys or girls taking in the game? There is a good chance that one of them may be single. Make eye contact and smile.
• Approach them: Sit down in a seat near them and wager a bet on the game.
• Ask them out: “My friends over there think Johnny Basketball is going to break his rebound record tonight. Care to join the wager? How about loser buys the winner dinner?”
At the bookstore:
Instead of heading right for the usual section of your interest, take time to browse the entire store. Lots of interesting people pop in and out of the bookstore. If you don’t see someone right away, have a seat in one of the couches and people watch.
• Approach them: If you see a potential single looking specifically at one book or area of interest, approach them and ask about the genre.
• Ask them out: “Hi. I noticed you picked up Jane Doe’s latest book. I need to get one of hers for my cousin, and I’m not sure what to buy. How about if I buy you a coffee in exchange for a recommendation?”
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Resources on dating and relationships:
- Get Your Ex Back
- Understand Your Man – Men Made Easy
- 1,000 Questions – What You Must Know About the One You’re With
- Date Ideas for Every Season
